50 little lessons for life

Happy New Year!

This month, I’ve adapted a post doing the rounds on Facebook and written some more little rules for life and living:
Life isn’t always fair, but it is mostly good.
The person you envy most is certain to feel their life is incomplete in a hundred ways.
In the centre of your being you have the answer. Inside, you know who you are and you know what you want.
Bad feelings hurt, but they don’t kill you. Listen to them – they tell you what you need.
Dwell on your dreams… they are the window to your inner world.
Learn to say no – without apologies, explanations or excuses.
Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
You don’t have to win every argument.
Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
Make a plan for your retirement by the time you’re 25.
Make peace with your past or it will screw up the present.
It’s OK to let your children see you cry sometimes.
Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
Pay off your credit cards every month.
Get rid of anything that isn’t beautiful, memorable or useful. Clutter weighs you down.
Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
It is never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
Anxiety happens when you live in the future. Depression happens when you live in the past. Live in the here & now.
When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the pretty lingerie, go out in your best new shoes, drink the good wine – don’t save anything for a special occasion. Today is special.
Be authentic and eccentric now. Don’t wait until you’re older to say, do or wear what you want.
The most important sex organ is the brain.
No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’ Then decide whether it’s worth your tears, worry, sanity…
It is possible to forgive but not to forget. But you can’t truly forgive until you are ready.
You will never know what most other people really think of you – and it isn’t worth worrying about anyway.
Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
Don’t take yourself too seriously. No one else does.
Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
Your children only get one childhood.
All that truly matters in the end is that you loved and were loved.
Get outside every day. Happiness won’t knock on your door and miracles are waiting everywhere.
Life is much shorter than it first seems – so grab it, live it, enjoy it.
If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have.
People will forget what you said & forget what you did, but never forget how you made them feel.
No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
When in doubt, just take the next small step.
Please do not feed the fears.
Anger pushed down becomes depression.
Remember you can be an actor. When you’re fearful, act as if you’re powerful.
Live without pretending; love without depending; listen without defending, speak without offending.
When one door closes, another one opens. But not always straight away and you won’t see it if you’re still fretting over the one that closed. Move on.
The most common lie is ‘I’m fine’.
Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.
The best may well be yet to come…